Random Ramblings # 59 – “Spring Board” Wife

There has been something which I have been noticing since a couple of years now. Be it in college or among my external group of friends some people say that they really want to marry a rich girl whose father has pots of money. Many a times its difficult to make out when they are joking and when they are actually serious about it.

I mean why the heck would you want a wife like that? Is a question I asked a friend of mine recently and the response I got is because she will be a “springboard” to a better life came the prompt reply. To say I was shocked would be a complete understatement.

I have always been brought up to feel that we should make our own standing in the world and this notion of a “springboard” by this means never really came into my head and thank god for that. To be honest it doesn’t really make much sense in todays day and age does it?
If you marry a rich wife do you expect her father to just throw his millions at you? Don’t you think her style of living will be way above what you would be able to provide and hence cause fights and disharmony? I mean these are just some of the questions which pop into my head and I expect them to pop into the head of any sane person indeed, yet I don’t think they do.

See I don’t think there is anything wrong with marrying a rich girl, its pretty awesome infact due to the fact that she might have a much broader point of view in a lot of things, be more open to trying new things amongst others along with the fact that many are extremely caring genuine people.

However to say I want to marry that person only because of her wealth or rather her parents wealth is a fools wish. Make your own bastion in life man. Make something of yourself to be able to give her the same lifestyle she is accustomed to and to which you aspire. In short be a man and not a leech.


Random Ramblings # 58 – Just a thought

This just popped into my head… Life is about experiences not extravagances, about the times which move us in ways big and small… Tiny things which cause an Imperceptible shift or large ones which shake our core itself… Its about loving and caring… Its about living without fear of dying…being intelligent and working smart along with working hard… Its about letting go the small things so the big ones still bring a smile to our face… Its about well its just about Life in the end


Random Ramblings # 53 – The Hugging Equation

For someone moving out from Manipal the last year has been jarring to say the least. The ease of life that was there in a hostel, with friends all around, personal space when you needed it and a general feeling of freedom and peace to do what you wanted is much missed.

For me however one of the most confounding things has been the lack of ease and intimacy found between the sexes even in Urban India today, in that respect Manipal was a glorious amazing bubble where liberal views were the norm not the exception. Coming from a Bombay boy this might surprise you with many people equating it with a liberal culture by default which I must say compared to the rest of India it has by the bucket loads.

No where is this more evident to me than in the simple act of hugging, which for me has been quite a natural thing to do for whichever friends were close in Manipal be it guys or girls. I don’t quite get it to be honest, the side hug which most pass of nowadays for a full one. Is  it because I’m more used to the real full blown thing or am I just way too modern with it the way Manipal allows you to be? Its a set of questions I don’t know the answer to and will spend a while figuring out for sure, maybe even re calibrating myself to the new social mores.

I do humbly appeal to everyone though, give a proper frontal hug, it makes you feel nice and fuzzy inside, its one of the most natural ways to express affection and why can’t there be that kind of affection between girls and guys in today’s day and age. The hug is sweet its tender and makes one light up and feel special, more than anything else it lets you know that this person has your back. i’m not saying go do it to every random stranger you meet cause that will surely gross a large part of the population out along with a few choice slaps to keep your cheek company but when you know and trust that person, give him/her a hug, let the “love” flow freely, cause it only increases with sharing.

Cause I love a nice hug 🙂


Random Ramblings # 43- The eternal cynic

Been realising recently that I am an eternal cynic…. And that it is just holding me back in a big way in my life… Not that there is much I can do about that at this point in my life but it’s kinda nice to put it down in writing… Lends a certain amount of finality to the whole thing in the way i had written about  in the last post…so now vthat it is out there maybe I can start looking at ways to change that and moving forward… More on that later…

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Random Ramblings # 34 – Rear View Mirror

I think there is this effect all of us experience at some point of our life when we look back at any event of our life no matter how big or small, I like to refer to it as the ‘Rear View Effect’, a unique brilliant insight which we tend to get into a matter which makes us believe that the last few minutes spent by us looking back and analyzing the past has made us infinitely smarter and better adjusted human beings in this world today.

I got this feeling this time when my aunt just very casually asked me whether I ever regretted not taking up commerce and staying in Mumbai. Almost instantly my mind goes in to flashback mode ( Was driving at the time do the flashback was a very very quick one) and started going over things which happened because of Manipal and my engineering education years Kota included and the short answer is yes ask me to answer right then and there and yup I do regret it very much, lost out on joining school and living the cathedral life for 2 more years, lost out on staying at home and definitely spent a lot more of my parents money than was necessary for the path I currently find my self on. On thinking about it a little more though my mind started to ruminate and question the answers I had given in a snap judgement.

So many thoughts so little time

Would I have ever become this independent and open if I was in school?
Would I have made such an awesome set of friends from all over the world ?
Would I have been able to truly understand what it is to do things on my own if I wasn’t in a hostel for four years?
Would the values my parents ingrained in me tested as much if I was here?
Would I have met the most amazing girl and felt so secure with her?
These and so may more questions have no answer and can only be answered in the maybe and leave a lingering doubt about the true regrets one has when one experiences the rear view effect, however I do feel that more time playing video games in school might have made me more social no matter what everyone else says.

Just something to think about tell me what you guys think in the comments below and share your rear view effect moments if any.

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Random Ramblings # 33- Almost home

Been waiting for this to happen since a long long time… finally after a lot of waiting and many many years of being away from my mommas lap my head will finally reclaim its rightful place from that useless sister of mine( Just kidding I love you sis 🙂 )

There are so many benefits of being close to home that it makes me giddy just thinking about them in the first place

1) My own bed!!! I can’t stress this fact enough cause recently the sloth in me has awoken and the beds at home are some of the best i have used in a long time
2) My girlfriend is close by – Yay!!! that sums it all I guess
3) Some of my closest friends both the ones I have made through my girl and the ones from before are all in Mumbai and I will finally be able to spend some semblance of quality time with them(rather than just weekend stolen away)
3) My mommas food- 😀 😀 the smiles should say it all but may make a bigger effect when I say they come from my stomach and not my face, lemme explain this a little further, I being a jain have lots of time when certain food item( yes I’m looking at you potato you handsome thing) can’t be consumed in my house, even then my wizard of a mother manages to bash flavor which even the top chefs and master chefs of the world gave up on a long time ago and creates lip smacking mouth-watering fantabulous meals outta thin air 🙂
4) My kitchen A budding amateur chef my self my kitchen is one of the places where I find absolute peace amidst all the chaos of cooking and after numerous nights salivating at recipes I’ve found online and the worlds best sous chef my momma by my side, I am sure of only one thing my girlfriend and friends alike should be prepared to adda few inches to their waistlines soon enough.
5) Books!!! – A legacy left to me by my granddad in the form of boxes upon boxes of old and new musty books I’m going to rediscover my love for them after a cruel break 6 years ago and be ware libraries of Mumbai I’m on the prowl again(I’m not going to make my poor da pay 10k in books again and that was 2005 imagine the bomb he would have to pay now!)

With all this ahead of me every time someone congratulates me for getting Mumbai I do a little dance in my head 😀  and look forward to it..

Just 2 more thorns lie in the road ahead with 2 inhumane tests but well we never gained something without a little pain did we? so bring it on.. cause the only song in my head right now is

“I’m coming home, I’m coming home!!!” Hmm da dum da dum!!


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Random Ramblings #30-Exit Strategy

Today I had a very interesting conversation with my new room-mate which got me thinking.

He stated something which was very obvious and out in the open but due to whatever reason I had never decided to think about head on. He said that by entering into the IT industry like we have done, we have essentially let someone else decide our fate for us.

In one fell swoop they took all four years of engineering imbibed into us and threw it out, assigned us a “Technology” to us, told us we could be thrown around like “Resources” on a giant RTS game being played by our corporate overlords, on this giant board game of the living breathing world in a desperate attempt to attract more “Gold” with bigger better contracts. They simultaneously expect us to fit almost 4 years of computer science knowledge in one fell swoop of just 45 to 60 days and enjoy it, whilst they try to smooth out all the battle scars which we have gained through our lives, those which help us differentiate into the varied individuals we are today, so they can fit us into the perfectly chiseled molds of the ideally productive “IT Resource” they have conceptualized.

All this got me into thinking what the hell am I doing here, not to deny that yes anyone who knows me will probably say that with my keen interest of computers and the way they function this IT industry world is perfectly suited for me and I should be glad to have gotten into one of the best that there is and a lot of other platitudes about how good I actually have it having got a job right out of college despite of not being from one of the famed IITs or going abroad or any of that elitist stuff.

While I do agree with most of what they say and yes I am glad for all they say I should be glad for and am relieved to finally be bringing in money for my family rather than just leaching money from my family, wouldn’t those same people agree that the luck of the draw is a slightly unfair way to be assigned the larger part of the rest of your life, I mean just because I took a decision once a long time ago that I wanted to become an engineer and never really questioned for whatever reasons seemed to justify not doing so at that time. Now however the feeling is finally sinking in that this one of the last throw’s of the dice left for me in this journey called life, the wheels of life are slowly going to start spinning faster and faster in deed as more of the cogs fall into place and most of the major ones already have with this being one of the last truly influential ones left.

Introspection into myself when faced with this harsh yet humbling reality I realized that its time for us to have an “Exit Plan” for this life that we have been forced into. Whats that one might ask? well the exit plan is exactly what it sounds like a way to exit this grinding life which for some of us holds no true meaning or purpose no matter how good we might be at it and do something which truly challenges us, in a way that even though we may not possess the natural raw talent to go ahead and be instant celebrities in that field, one where we grow by learning every single day and at the end become good at what we do or at least satisfied with what we have achieved.

For a lot of us this path isn’t going to be the easier one at all, its much easier to just lie back and say that you know what they have already done most of the bloody work for me why not just flow with it and make something out of the cards that have been dealt to us.

Those people in their own way are completely justified in their belief and I wish them the best of luck in that way of living their lives. I however come form a slightly different bend of mind, I believe that you know what mister I’m going to only take the best that I can from this big MNC that I’m working at which is the absolutely crazy amount of professionalism the try to imbibe into us as well as the immense networking options the offer us across the wide range of industries they serve.

My “Exit Plan” isn’t defined yet but this much is clear to me that this isn’t how i wanted my life to be decided and I will not allow it to be so, cause it is my belief that the ones who are truly successful in this world be it businessmen like Bill Gates and Dhirubhai Ambani or literary superstars like J.K. Rowling very few of them automatically got into exactly what they wanted right from the start I mean Dhirubhai was a petrol pump attendant for gods sake but they all had the ambition and balls(most importantly) to actually dare to change the wheels in this machine of life and make them sing according to their own tune and while I don’t aim to reach their level, I do wish to make my Life a more fulfilling one and wish you decide to do the same.

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